Loving Wisely

After the happy first years of our marriage, we began to experience a breakdown in communication. I had been sexually abused by a relative when I was a teenager and this held me back from being truly present, emotionally and physically, with my husband. Rather than sharing my feelings with my husband, I withdrew and blamed him for our problems. Our work with Micki enabled me to recognize my difficult feelings and learned how to express myself so that my husband could better understand me. We are now able to deal with challenges head on so that they don’t snow ball and become crises.

We really appreciate everything that Micki did for us. We struggled to communicate our needs and be vulnerable with one another before therapy with Micki. She helped us understand our needs and express ourselves to each other more clearly. We learned to really learned how to hold onto our anxiety and be able to hear and understand the other person. Our relationship and lives have changed dramatically due to the time we spent in Micki’s sessions and the work we did in between. She played an invaluable part in helping us work through our issues and bringing us to a new place. We can’t recommend her highly enough!

There is nothing worse than realizing you have made a huge mistake in marrying the wrong one. We had fun together when we were dating, but only realized after we had made a huge mistake. We felt like such failures as we tried so hard to keep pushing each other to keep going. It was only by working with Micki that we got to see that who we are as people just wouldn’t work long term as a couple. We are so grateful that we managed to get out of this relationship before complicating things by having children together. We now feel free to live our lives in a way that suits each of us individually. We have also learned what our true needs are so that we will choose partners who are better for us going forward.

I came to see Micki because I just started dating a woman that I thought was the most beautiful woman in the world. I was freaked out because I didn’t want to “screw it up.” I had a history of suffering from depression and anxiety. Micki really helped me to hold myself together and see this woman, in a more realistic way so that I wouldn’t put her on a pedestal which would have completely destroyed the relationship. We have now been married for a year and have a baby together. We did some pre-marriage couples work with her so we could learn some tools and skills for how to work together. So grateful we did.

I have always had a difficult time committing to important things. This fear of commitment has hampered my life. I came to see Micki because I was dating a woman whom I really loved but was scared of committing to because she didn’t fit the cookie cutter mold. After several sessions of Somatic Experience therapy with Micki I was able to let go of some old wounds that had been holding me back and was able to find a new way of moving forward. I have since been able to feel complete about my decision to marry my girlfriend.

I had been severely abused by my father as a child and was struggling to believe that I was worthy of love. I kept choosing partners who were bad for me. When I came to see Micki I had started dating a man who treated me really well. I continued to test him and treat him badly to see if he would stay. By working with Micki I got to see how I had to handle my own anxiety and not throw it onto my partner. By staying the course I was able to work on my ability to trust both myself and my partner and to be able to develop a loving and healthy relationship.

I came to Micki because I wanted to break unhealthy relationship habits- which grew out of childhood. I was stuck finding the same type of toxic man over and over. A few months into working with Micki, I ended up meeting a nearly-perfect-for-me man and had periods of nearly throwing it away out of fear and worries that were not based in reality. Micki helped me deal with my fears and kept me grounded and stable… Long story short, the wedding is in a few months. I’m not sure where I would be without Micki doing what she does best. Am I worry free now? NO! I’m human. Do I think that relationships are easy? NO! But I know that when I need some help after we get married, Micki will be my go-to.

I came to Micki complete overwhelmed by the early stages of a relationship I felt had potential. After a year of therapy I feel confident in my relationship (with my soon-to-be husband!) and much more attuned to my own voice when facing decisions.