When it comes to dating, we don’t know exactly what the other person wants from us. We know we have to be interesting and offer some sort of conversation, but it takes a lot of effort to get the ball rolling when you don’t even know what you have in common, or what kind of conversation the other person expects. We don’t know what kind of temperament our date has. We can go in full guns blazing, but if our date has a delicate temperament we can blow them away, to the point where we’re too much.